Tell Them Now

Tell Them Now

In leadership, relationships matter more than we often realize. Yet many of us wait too long to express gratitude to the people who have influenced, encouraged, and shaped our lives. Inspired by a conversation with University of Oklahoma Vice President Matt Rom, this reflection explores what he calls the “eulogy problem”—our tendency to say the most meaningful things about people only after they’re gone—and challenges us to tell them now.

Before You Say a Word

Before You Say a Word

Before a leader ever casts vision, corrects a mistake, or delivers a speech, something else speaks first: presence. People often decide how they feel about us long before we say a word—through our expression, tone, posture, and the emotional atmosphere we create around us. This week, I was reminded that some of the most influential leaders don’t simply command attention; they make people feel seen, valued, and genuinely welcomed.